Losing Someone to Cancer, How to Survive

I lost my wife of 36 years after a short battle with cancer on Oct. 6th 2009. She was diagnosed on July 29th 2009. That's a short battle in anyone's book. My mother-in-law, was diagnosed November 16th with the same type of cancer as her daughter, my wife! I am a man who is grieving these losses the best I can.